Testimonials

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Sumeera Shrestha

  • Wed, 30 Jun, 2021
  • WHR / Gyanbodh Research And Development Services

According to me, when we talk about LGBTIQ++ community in context to Nepal, there are many important issues that needs more discussion as the issues ranges from the daily lives, right to nationality and most importantly the right to self identification. For me, the right to self identification is important to be addressed as when it is not respected by the state , it has an impact on the statistics , which has streamlined both public and private sphere, law and policy, workplace and households disrespecting and neglecting LGBTIQ++. There should be zero tolerance towards infringement of their human rights and efforts should be made to keep their rights intact.

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Pooja Pant

  • Wed, 30 Jun, 2021
  • Coordinator

We need more discussions on the ways how we can remove gendering and its hierarchy that exist in our society. For this, it is important to normalize if people don’t want to state their gender. The reasons are simple: gender is only a social construct; gender is fluid; and how one feels about one's own gender is not another's business.Each individual should have the freedom (respecting others' freedom) to choose what one wears, how one looks, and who one likes or loves. We need to question each of us why individuals need to be confined in a gender box, and why do we expect them to adopt the roles our society has bestowed upon them. Normalizing gender neutral mindset will help a lot to lessen the prejudice towards any individuals/communities who do not conform to traditional gender norms. This way, I believe we will succeed in erasing the distinctions between "us" and "them", thus the discrimination.

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Kripa Basnyat

  • Wed, 30 Jun, 2021
  • Reclaiming Narratives

Every day learning can happen if we keep an open mind. We need to challenge our inbuilt unconscious biases towards people with different sexual orientation, gender identity and sexual expression. It is important to take the burden of educating yourself and not shift the burden on someone who is already struggling/battling with the complex and interlocked systems of oppression. No matter who we identify as, we can stand as oppressed or oppressor in split seconds. So, how do we become more vigilant about our own ‘power and privileges’ should be a constant in our movement(s). Let us fight our own demons but first at least acknowledge that you have demons. Let us be more aware and practice empathy, love and compassion with tinge of passion and fearlessness to overthrow cis-heteronormative-abiest-casteist narratives.

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Tsering Dolma Tamang

  • Wed, 30 Jun, 2021
  • Project Coordinator

The topic LGBTIQ++ is still susceptible. Talking about myself, I came to know about the LGBTIQ++ community when I was doing my bachelor. We need to discuss more in Nepal’s context, including comprehensive sexuality education in our school curriculum. I think School is one of the important institutions where we can educate the future generation. Only then, they can look beyond the gender box that our society has labeled and respect diverse people living around our community. Media representation is a powerful tool in today’s world, the lack of representation and narratives of LGBTIQ++ communities in mainstream media and the way it depicts the community is disrespectful. Hence people tend to believe and internalize it and fail to see gender beyond the binary box. Lack of representation and lack of narratives is a hurdle for people who cannot accept the LGBTIQ++ community, and lack of platform is a hurdle for people from the LGBTIQ++ community.

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Durga Sapkota

  • Wed, 30 Jun, 2021
  • SRHR Advocate

As a health professional, I never read about LGBTIQ in my university courses. I read, only two sex exists, male and female are normal and beyond that everything that exists is abnormal. I got opportunity to work with LGBTIQ community very closely during my research and advocacy journey on SRHR. I then realized how much stigma I hold towards LGBTIQ community. It took some time to unlearn the things I had learn about LGBTIQ community from society I had grown up with. As a youth SRHR advocate, I felt I can play a role in normalizing their gender identity, sexuality and gender expression (as it is normal indeed). Now, every time I conduct training on SRHR I bring some discussion around LGBTIQ and their rights, whenever possible, I ensure they represent their own voice from their own perspective in training sessions.

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Badri Pun

  • Mon, 14 Jun, 2021
  • Program Manager, Blue Diamond Society

 One of the basic and very important issues everyone needs to discuss is to accept who we are and how we present ourselves. It's time for each and every single person to start believing and accepting sexual and gender minorities. We are in 2021, yet we have struggled just to get basic human rights, such as citizenship identifying our gender, same sex marriage, employment opportunities and many more. And the fight/struggle is still continuous. 

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Rita Thapa

  • Mon, 14 Jun, 2021
  • Co-coordinator Inter-Generational Feminist Forum

The biggest hurdle for members of the straight community here is our patriarchal form of socialization permeating our mindsets through religion and “social norms' ' which translates in our behavior and attitudes. But at least as adults, we can be open, listen, and learn. The various realities of the LGBTIQ++ is surely something we cannot directly experience. But we can learn to appreciate their feelings. WE can accept, include, and help amplify their voices. If we are for human rights, how can we not?! The LGBTIQ++ community members have a long road ahead: a) coming to terms with their own sexuality; b) creating awareness in their homes and outside; and on top of that, c) advocating for their rights and representation. I feel we all have a moral obligation to at least walk a little with them – and help make their journeys a little lighter!" . 

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Amit Timilsina

  • Mon, 14 Jun, 2021
  • Asia Pacific Alliance For Sexual And Reproductive Health And Rights

I grew up in the same society where we learn and internalize about our gender role and expression. Over the years, I have been constantly learning about gender and sexuality, interacting with diverse groups of people and constantly checking my own privilege. Thus, My own perception and concept about gender and sexuality has been fluid. I try to call out toxic masculinity among my friend and try to share what I know and what I have learned about sex, gender and sexuality. The youth need to unlearn, learn and re-learn about the gender, sex and sexuality so that we can break the existing stereotypes and practice which hinders gender equality. I try to call out toxic masculinity among my friend and try to share what I know and what I have learned about sex, gender and sexuality. The youth need to unlearn, learn and re-learn about the gender, sex and sexuality so that we can break the exisiting- sterotypes and practice which hinders gender equality.

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Pabitra Neupane

  • Mon, 14 Jun, 2021
  • Project Officer, Beyond Beijing Committee (BBC) Nepal

People from LGBTIQ++ community in Nepal are still vulnerable to stigma, violence and discrimination, due to their real or perceived sexual orientation and gender identity and there is a huge challenge to bring change in this situation though the constitution of Nepal assures equality for all. So, I believe it is very imperative to have more discussion and advocacy at a policy level for the reformation of existing discriminatory laws and their implementation from the national level to grassroot level to bring change. Thus, It is necessary to work together and sensitize to break down the barriers that prevent LGBTIQ++ people from exercising their full human rights. When we do that, we will liberate them to fully and productively contribute to our common progress and we can teach our future generations to embrace all people regardless of their identity.

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Anuj Petter Rai

  • Mon, 14 Jun, 2021
  • Mr Gay Handsome 2017, 2nd Runner Up 

To bring positive changes, the work needs to be done from the grass root level. Till date, in school level the inclusiveness in comprehensive sexual education curriculum is still absent. If the up coming generation would be able to identify what sex, gender, sexuality, sexual orientation is from their school level then it would have been easier for young LGBTIQ+ to identify themselves as one and open up about their identity. Being LGBTIQ member we should be able to use the social media as our weapon to educate and sensitize our families and societies about LGBTIQ+. What we portray can bring changes among people's perspective toward the concept of gender and sexual minorities. Throughout my journey being from the LGBTIQ community, I have seen lots of positive changes , people being respectful towards our communities, staying alongside our community to raise awareness and fight for our rights. Organizations like Blue Diamond Society, Mitini Nepal and Inclusive Forum Nepal has played important roles for those positive changes not only to LGBTIQ community also to general society and to government/policy maker. To bring more changes in the community, country individual should be self aware and help each other make this normalized.